Telling Great Stories: Adventures and a life well lived
“Great stories happen to those who tell them.”
Why stories are important:
I gravitate towards people with kind faces. Folk with eyes that sparkle with the merest excuse and mouths that revert to a grin. I am lured by a good story, one that sucks me in and leads me on an emotional odyssey. If you and others are like me, then the art of storytelling is an essential life-skill. Listening to Cai, it is his stories that make him interesting (or not). Modeling and teaching him to tell good stories will set him up for success whatever he chooses to do with his life.
Storytelling excites me because if a person can create and tell a story, then they are able to author their own. When I look at the best moments in my life; ones when I am fulfilled, those are the moments I am authoring my biography. When I am spinning wheels and feeling stuck I have given the authorship up. This is true regardless of the excuses I create at the time. It is due to the circumstances, the people around me, the environment. One of my biggest struggles as a parent is to relinquish ghost authoring Cai’s story. This is because of my need for it to be beautiful. When I trust him he will share a great story with the world.
The role of storytelling in adventure and adventure in storytelling:
Climbing inspires me. Beyond the movement, environment and experiences, are the stories of passionate people. Climbing literature is a fantastic genre. Copious gripping yarns mixed with the warty reality of the human condition. During my youth the climbing tribe was small. I lived in a climber’s Mecca and I was able to climb, chat and drink with authors and raconteurs. I heared their tales first hand. Listening to these stories motivated me to have similar adventures. When I had adventures they became my story. This in turn inspired me to go out more and so it went on. Making more stories makes more stories.
What I love about these stories is that they compel you to share them. Stories from my life shape my career as a teacher and no doubt influence my students to create their own. The thing about adventurous stories is they force you to take stock of your place in the world. Inevitably there is growth and not the kind that society dictates. It is an authentic growth driven by a desire to be your potential. When a young person understands what he or she is capable of and is not frightened of achieving it, a leader is born. Knowing you inspired young people to author their own stories is a wonderful feeling. Especially when they are adventurous.
Lighting a fire in a young person’s belly is giving them an invitation to step off the hamster wheel of life. Unfettered, their energy takes them to places of their choice, often unexpected ones. They are free to see all the world has to offer and contribute to it. For whatever reason (I have my thoughts) we are raising a population tied to a grindstone. How often do you feel that there is more to life? Do you contemplate you are on this earth to achieve something and you do not even know what it is? We all need an exit strategy from this culturally inspired yet self-imposed prison. Absorbing, creating and then telling adventurous stories is the best solution I know.
Four tips to help your children tell great stories:
Begin with the end in mind:
I was once at a memorial service for a friend’s father. I did not know John yet everyone’s need to talk about him moved me. Everything I heard that day was a testament to the kindness of the man, his success and common touch. Over and over, I heard how he had made an impact and left people’s worlds better for meeting him. The thing was, all these positive images became a call to action. I left doubting if my memorial would be that uplifting, and my thoughts strayed to what I need to do starting now. What actions do I need to take for people to say things like that about me when it is my turn?
When you know the destination navigating there becomes much easier. After thought I know how to behave to get the rave eulogy. Knowing the end of the story helps define the stages that lead to it in a fluid and efficient manner.
Create a skeleton then flesh it out:
Screenwriters use story boards. I encourage young story tellers (and their parents) to do the same. Figure out the main points of the story, organize them and then add the flourishes. Remember stories come in many forms. Have your children make a movie if this helps to see the benefits of the process.
Emotions and descriptions make stories:
Storytellers use repetition, they find a cadence that lulls us to listen. They use descriptions of everyday things we have all seen, heard or felt to engage our emotions. Have your child describe details, how does it look, sound or feel? Collect these descriptions together using the skeleton.
Get your children outside:
Hands down the best piece of advice I can give. It is so much easier to describe an event in nature than anything else. How many more triggers for the senses are there outside? The infinite number of smells alone provide vast potential for storytelling. But this only touches the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the positive influences nature can have. Can I remember any of the hours of TV I have watched? I still though remember the rock’s texture on climbs decades after the event. Throw in the intimacy of a relationship based on a need for trust and the stories start to flow. The fears, the humor, the excitement, the grandeur, all vie for attention when I am telling a story.
How are you going to get your children outside and having adventures? How are you going to encourage them to tell their stories? If there is any way I can help, please reach out and let me know.